Ladies are meant to be pursued and isn't created to be easy

You don't have to be among Christian single (or not) women to hear one common refrain: "We want to be pursued!"

Today a lot of people would argue that women enjoy their freedom to pursue men if they choose to and make the first move on whoever she likes while some would applaud her for the gutsy behavior.

But the truth is, (Listen MEN!) ladies are meant to be wooed, pursued or won.

According to writer AJ Kiesling, "There’s something very attractive about being pursued with intent." And it's true. There is nothing more mature than a man who knows what he's created for to do and that is, to know clearly his responsibility.

Ladies grow up treated with a little more attention because first and foremost, we are more sensitive. We laugh at the corniest jokes and cry at almost every possible chick flick and dramatic movies. We love being dolled up, made up and being treated like princesses. Tell me a woman who doesn't. I think the big part of what attracts us ladies is that a man actually pursue us and make his interests for us known.

One of our pastors in church once said, "Loving her privately is not enough. You have to tell the whole world about it."

On the otherhand, why do women say guys are hard to read is a better question.

Some guys in this generation enter relationships for a wrong reason. Take note: I said some, not ALL. And because some men (boys, really) don't tell a woman about his past a lot especially those who have already entered a relationship but it didn't work out, some women don't really have an idea about this guy pursuing her. This is one of the reasons why SOME of the ladies make it harder for guys just so they'd know their limits, how long they could wait and still pursue her while waiting for her.

Some men find it hard to wait, too. While this means a lot to women, it sometimes causes a few men to surrender. I understand that men wants one thing clear: that their intentions are understood and/or if the ends would meet. While this remains a question for them, some ladies do not "tell all." Instead, ladies would like to leave a little mystery for guys, which is another thing some guys don't really understand.

And THAT isn't enough to say ladies are hard to read. Just because some ladies are hard to pursue and just because they tend to not really make men feel like their efforts are appreciated means they are hard to read. Remember that the ladies need to be assured that men can wait for them whatever the circumstance would be. Same thing when they're both in a relationship.

As for me, I wouldn't want my special someone to only pursue me when we're already together. But it is a man's job to pursue someone he loves each and everyday. And I would love that.

It takes a real man to know all these. Pursue her. And when you do, "You can’t fake it. You can never fake how much you love her. If she feels you are faking it – you get the opposite result."

Conan O’Brien's 2011 Dartmouth College Commencement Address

To this day, I still don’t understand exactly what happened. But I have never had more fun, been more challenged, and (this is important), had more conviction about what I was doing. How could this be true? Well, it’s simple. There are few things more liberating in this life than having your worst fear realized. I went to college with many people who prided themselves on knowing exactly who they were and exactly where they were going. At Harvard, five different guys in my class told me they would one day be president of the United States. Four of them were later killed in motel shoot-outs. The other one’s briefly hosted Blues Clues before dying senselessly at yet another motel shoot-out. Your path at 22 will not necessarily be your path at 32 or 42. One’s dream is constantly evolving, rising and falling, changing course.

But the point is this: It is our failure to become our perceived ideal that ultimately defines us and makes us unique. It’s not easy. But if you accept your misfortune and handle it right, your perceived failure can become a catalyst for profound reinvention.

No specific job or career goal defines me and it should not define you. In 2000, I told graduates to not be afraid to fail. And I still believe that. But today I tell you, whether you fear it or not, disappointment will come. The beauty is that through disappointment you can gain clarity. And with clarity comes conviction and true originality.

Blogging hiatus on my body clock.... STOPS.

Today I read one of my colleague's nicest works (which I reposted down there before this blog) and I was reminded about how long I have not written anything.

When I made this blog for public I was sure of one thing; I wanted to write so I could at least share through my writings my true identity and who I really am. A lot of people don't know that I've been writing long before I started singing so I wanted to continue this while pursuing the other things that I love. But because I just came back merely through another person's work which amazed me, I still am thinking about what I should be writing now that I just returned.

I have nothing fancy to share except the fact that I'm officially out of college, graduated, (and looking for a job again after what it feels like not being able to land in 2 jobs I applied for the past 2 months) and still enjoying my youth.

On the other side of the coin, nothing fancy with me and my 1 year and 3 month-boyfriend, Abe, only right now I think we're getting a lot stronger than we've ever been. Less fights and buckets and buckets of patience. Plus, it helped me a lot to go through all the stuff piling on in my life knowing that his support for me is unwavering. He adds up to my family and my real friends whom I trust. But since everyone's busy with everything going on in their own lives, I usually have my Mom and him with me every single day. (Plus the friends I'm talking about has either WORK or STUDIES going on.

But thank God for Sundays I get to see my friends while we're all on work and school break.

I freaking want to get ANOTHER job offer on Tuesday!!! Pray for me! =)

Now..

I'm running out of words to say..

But hey, I'M BACK... for good! ☺♥

XXO, me!

Nang Nakilala Ko Ang Nanay Mo Hindi Na Ako Masaya

I found this really meaningful and very, very sweet! Nice work Jack! Proud that I was once a part of your great talent! =)


Masungit – ang una kong puna sa kanya
na nakapamewang nang madatnan natin sa may entrada.
Nakakunot ang noo at nakatulis ang mga labi,
tila lalamunin ako sa susunod pang mga sandali.
Lumapit ka, at humalik, kasabay ang pagbulong niya ng matinis.
Sino ang lalaking iyan, ang pagsambit niya nang kaybilis.
Tumugon naman ako sa tanong na hindi para sa akin.
Nobyo niya po, ang aking buong pagmamalaki.
Mahal mo ba ang dalaga ko, ang patuloy niyang pag-uusisa.
Natigilan naman ako at napasagot lamang ng ohong malamya.
Hindi ako kumbinsido, ang bulalas ng inang naninigurado.
Ikaw ay sumabat, tama na po Ma, mahal ko ang aking nobyo.

Mapagmahal – ang ipinamalas niya sa akin
na nakapamewang pa rin nang ako ay papaalis.
Nakakunot ang noo ngunit sa labi ay may ngiti,
na tila nagbibilin na ang dalaga niya ay huwag paiiyakin.

Nang nakilala ko ang nanay mo
hindi na ako masayang saktan ka pa.

By: JACK MALABANA - http://damnselfyouaresostressed.wordpress.com